The Real Deal

By Bill McCartney

Each of us works to maintain a certain image. We all have secrets that we're certain would alter people's impressions of us. And, vulnerability does bring the potential for judgment and criticism - dangers that keep us pretending. So, we play it safe.

Authenticity. We all crave it. But to be truly honest about who we are may be a man's greatest challenge. Can a man let others in and still be a man? Guys, our gender is known for problems with pride. With that at stake, we mask our inadequacies and hide our pasts at any cost. We cover our failures with all our might. Guys, we're lying! It's just plain deceit.

So, let me challenge you to do the unthinkable. It's scary, but take a risk. Confide in a few friends. Speak the unspeakable. What's the worst that could come of it? Someone may think less of you. It's possible. But, it's more likely that somebody will identify with you. It's almost a sure thing that somebody will respect you for your truthfulness.

And, I can almost guarantee that your listeners will be inspired to respond in kind. God can do beautiful things with a little vulnerability. And, guys, you may have to be the one brave enough to initiate that kind of authenticity.

Welcome a few trusted friends to the darkest corners of your character - your real life - your heart. Your friendships will be deepened profoundly. Take note of the incredible freedom that follows; the release; the lifting of burdens. The truth really will "set you free" in ways you never thought possible! There's nothing like being accepted just as you are: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Will you reveal your most regretted mistakes to a kid destined to make the same choices you did? By disclosing the things we're most embarrassed about - our deepest secrets - we can minister to other guys in ways that an "actor" never could. For that, are we willing to subject ourselves to potential ridicule? Think you can play it safe forever? Get real.